This is my fifth post in this blog. This entry will have quite a twist in it. I must admit that the events that occurred in my personal life will have a slight effect upon this entry.
I’m beginning to be open about the infamous topic of divorce being legal in our country. I was surprised to know that the Philippines and the Vatican are the only countries in the world that doesn’t have a divorce law. Perhaps this is a sign that maybe it’s time for us to have one already? We really can’t blame the fact the Philippines has a pre-dominant religion which is Christianity. Maybe it’s time we stepped outside of our comfort zone and start being practical? A few insights struck me within these past few days. What if the relationship can’t be fixed anymore? What if it already came to the point that the partners are not happy anymore with their relationship? What would be the best option for them? What would be the best option for their children?
The thing I fear most about divorce being legal in the Philippines is that people will tend to use it as an easy way out of their problems. Filipinos have the tendency to abuse things whether legal or not. Are we ready for divorce to be legal in our country? There are a lot of cases wherein couples have already filed for annulment. But there are a lot of instances also where couples don’t go through the legal process of separation. Then the complexity of the paper work begins. They cannot remarry without having the proper legal separation according to the law. People usually don’t go through the legal process of separation because it is very time consuming, expensive, and tedious for them. Would legalizing divorce make it easier for married couples to end their marriage legally? If so, would this pave the way for a more vibrant and productive society? Or would it just make a mock out of the institution of marriage? Would it even make a difference?
I asked the last question since it’s common knowledge that majority of the people in our country is drowning in poverty. Only the small percent of our population can afford such a process like divorce. Would the majority of our poverty-ravaged population take the time, money, and effort to go through the divorce process? Would it even make a significant impact on their lives knowing that they can end their marriage legally? Or would they just look the other way and let things be since they can’t afford it. What difference would it make on them?
It’s really useless to ask people to stay in a relationship if both of them aren’t happy anymore. It’ll just get worse and worse as time passes. One cannot truly stay in a commitment if he or she does not want to be in it in the first place. It’s really up to the couple to decide on what they want to happen in their family. But if you ask me, divorce should only be a last resort. Nothing less than the last resort.
The writer is confused about many of the concepts and understanding he has about the law and divorce.
ReplyDeleteFor example he refers to and make the following comment..."Only the small percent of our population can afford such a process like divorce. Would the majority of our poverty-ravaged population take the time, money, and effort to go through the divorce process?"
It is a fact that the greatest percentage of the population choose the Annulment process to try to break an unsatisfactory and often unhappy marriage. In fact it takes longer and costs more for an annulment than a divorce! Did you know that??. Annulments are not granted for free! www.divorceinthephilippines.com