Day 4 June 5, 2011 - 1 Family, 2 Houses

This is my 4^th entry for this blog. In this entry, I shall talk about the effects of divorce on the children. All cases of divorce will lead to a family having two houses, one house for each parent. That would suggest the scenario of children having to go back and forth the houses depending on the agreement of the parents. In some cases, children are deprived of the right to be with one of their parent because the parents cannot come to an agreement. It would be much difficult for the children if one of the parents move to a not so distant place.

 Naturally, parents need/have to see their children grow to support them and guide them. But how can they do that if they are forced to live far from their kids? It becomes the burden to the kids now that they have to travel back and forth just to see their mom or dad. It’s bad enough that they don’t get to see him or her that often but they have to ride planes in and out of the city/country just to be with their parent.

 Objectively speaking, children should not have to go through all of those just for them to see their mom or dad. This kid of lifestyle would definitely affect the child/children in so many ways. The parent with the children would have to work twice as hard since he or she doesn’t have a partner to share in the expenses of the household such as utilities, mortgage, and education. This would directly lead to diminished time with his or her children. The child would have to grow up within the supervision of the household help (given that they can afford it). The development of the child is now compromised since he or she is not given the full attention that he requires from his or her parent. More importantly, this could lead to the deterioration of the relationship between the child and the parent since they don’t get to spend much time together doing things that normal families should be doing. Imagine dealing growing up around people you are not related to at all.

I actually find it ironic how people need to pay other people to take care of their child. But that’s the sad reality that we have to face. The sad reality is that parents have to work even abroad just to earn enough so that their family can eat at least twice a day.  It would be naturally difficult for them. The child now will begin to seek attention elsewhere because he is not getting any at home. This could lead to the child growing up with the wrong kind of people doing wrong things. Many of mislead youth today can trace their problems back to their families. They would often reason out that their family is not really functioning like one. So they tend to get look for alternative ways for them to be noticed. So there you have it. It’s up to us to make things work for our family. We just have to figure out what to do.