Getting to know each other a little too late
They say that the greatest paradox in the world is a happy marriage. But I think otherwise. So far my stand on the issue of the legalization of the Divorce Bill has not yet changed. This post will have sort of a resemblance to my first post. I’m still not a big fan of the divorce bill and this post is for emphasis on what I think is the most important aspect of a relationship.
I want people to understand that investing in pre-marital relationships is the best thing that they can do. Investing as much time as possible with your partner even before you even come across the concept of marriage will make the biggest difference in your relationship. I believe that this is the best way for them to live happily ever after. Take years, decades if you must before you get married. Know your partner well enough that you can predict each other’s moves or words. Know every single aspect of him. Know every parcel of his character. Understand his or her behavior and attitudes. It’s not wise to get married when in fact, you’re only infatuated with a person. Know what makes him happy. Know what makes him furious. When you know your partner by heart, you can now think about marriage.
Investing that much time in your pre-marital relationship could very well pave the way for a happy marriage for you and your partner. For example, when you’re already married, you wouldn’t do things that would upset your spouse since you know those things very well already. Arguments can be avoided and excuses saying that your spouse didn’t know you were like that will not exist. Conflicts will definitely be minimized as couples are very familiar with each other.
Another reason why investing so much time in your pre-marital relationship would help a lot is that you can use that time to decide whether or not you really want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Time always plays a big part in relationships. Time is also your investment in getting to know the pros and cons of being married. The last reason why I think investing in pre-marital relationships is the best way to avoid a failed marriage is that, you should know very well if your partner is the one you want to start a family with. Do you really want to have children with him or her? Can you handle to obligations and responsibilities of being a parent and at the same time being a spouse? Because once you make that solemn promise in front of God and the law, you are bound by that promise to spend the rest of your life with him or her. Invest time to determine of you are ready to start a new life and begin a family with him or her.
Questions such as these can help people get through their lives a little bit better. Of course it’s not easy at all since we have to think long and hard about it, but this could very well be the only way to stay happily ever after.